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    2 weeks to live

    My Partner had a problem with migraines, the vertigo thing, being a bit wobbly . Few days off work on the couch will sort her out. On August 27 she was advised for her to undergo a scan. She had experienced some tightness in her

    abdomen too.

    Took the scan. 2 hours later she was advised to go to Hospital. Stay the night please.

    Still in Hospital undergoing scans and tests . Results came through on September 4, 3 days ago. Clot on the brain. liver failure ( she doesn't drink ) and an aggressive breast cancer tumour.

    We've been told she has less than 2 weeks to live. Probably only about 4 days now, she's declining rapidly.

    Life's not fair is it. I'm struggling ...

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    Dude I am so sorry to hear that
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    Oh no, that is rough! Sorry to hear that Stylo….
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    Words are just never enough for what you are both facing.
    Reach out to the KB community should you need anything at all.
    I'm so sorry to hear of this.

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    ouch, grab a note pad and when things are mentioned, liked funeral desires, who should get what, memories; take note, as they will get lost in the blur it will become.
    Some people will be trying to reconnect, and spend time with them, that might be honourable but with that length of time almost every breath is precious, she will need sleep and rest, they will need to be sent away at times, Not easy but it will have to happen.
    Take care, there is no answer to most of this,

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    Life is definitely not fair, that sounds like a complete nightmare.

    Having sat with some family members through their final days, I hope you get some moments to treasure in between all the hard stuff, we certainly did and they’ve been a great comfort to look back on.
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    Sorry to read that. Sorry too that there's nothing I can say that will help.

    Jellywrestler's advice was good. I recently had contact with a guy who was terminal to help with Veteran's Affairs documentation, his pain meds left him too confused to fill forms and his wife had always left forms to him. Undertakers have a booklet that when filled in covers all the details as to how you want things handled.
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    I tried to think of something to say. All that I thought of didn't make the grade. So sorry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tri boy View Post
    I tried to think of something to say. All that I thought of didn't make the grade. So sorry.
    I hear ya, I typed out a couple thoughts and just felt like anything I could say was pointless. Regardless Stylo, you and your partner are in our thoughts.

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    Words absolutely fail me!

    So sorry for your troubles.
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    Stylo that just sucks, you’re right, sometimes life just ain’t fair
    Sorry mate.
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    Been with her today, No communication now. Her eyes are closed. Only words I heard was she weakly said " Oooo fuck this"

    Best one was I kissed her on the lips and she gave me a weak peck back. I'm sure she felt the love when I hugged her too.

    I'll be back in the hospital early tomorrow. We'll move her into the hospice and take it from there.

    Sad times for me and her only son. 57 is too young to die.

    Thanks for the kind words.

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    No words available that can help.

    Please accept a virtual man hug!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stylo View Post

    Best one was I kissed her on the lips and she gave me a weak peck back. I'm sure she felt the love when I hugged her too.
    It may have felt weak but i'm sure she summoned all her resources to convey it to you, and while you may not feel a response to a hug or holding her hand, or words; the link between you will still be there.

    Have you got someone looking after you and maybe your pets at this time Stylo?

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    She didn't quite make the 4 days.

    She managed 3 days and 8 hours between diagnosis and passing away.

    She slipped away at 2144 last night.

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